First off I will address a few things. I want to thank those of you who left comments and thank you for your concern and for your advice.
I do agree with Kim about a schedule being very important. We have tried a schedule off and on and it is so hard to keep. One night out seems to throw it right off but I do admit it is nice when we abide by one.
I actually rarely drank coffee until this past summer and have only been drinking it regulary for the last few months. Only in the morning....occasionally in the afternoon....on really bad days. I never drink pop....ok, not never, maybe once a month I will have a bit of fountain pop when we are out for dinner, but I am a huge water drinker.
I was worried about coffee affecting the kids and was wary about drinking it but the reason I started to was to help cope with the exaustion I was feeling after being up so much through the nights.
Water just wasn't giving me much of a boost. I have skipped the coffee many days just to be sure it didn't affect the kids, but it is about 10 hours between my coffee consumtion and their nurse time. I usually only have 2 cups... I know more will affect my sleep so I really try. Then again there are exceptions....on bad days.
However none of this seems to help any with sleeping.
So here is the deal. I will tell you how our nights go and how our situation plays out and if any of you have any advice or can share what works for you, please, I would love to find a way to get them to sleep through the night.
I know many of you are fans of the cry it out method. I have no issue with this method.
However it does not work for us.
I have read sleep books and they said to do this method by 6 mos and 12 at the latest. Well when Kailtyn was six months old I hit my second trimester with Ethan.
She was just starting to sleep long periods and I was quite happy. However she was a breast only baby and with going into the second trimester my milk turned back to colostrum.
She got quite upset and since she did not take a bottle (we had been trying for two months every day to get her used to one) she started to get pretty hungery. After a few days of not getting any milk and only sipping water off a spoon and just starting to eat a few things I was getting worried and she was super fussy.
After a doctor's appointment we where told that this was common with such close pregnancies and she would adjust and within two weeks be on a bottle.
We percivered but she was stubourn.
Long story short and after nearly daily doctor visits for 32 days she finally broke down and took a bottle.
She had become listless and was rarely soiling her diapers. She was trying to nurse ever few minutes and was upset around the clock. I was freaking out at the doctors for not booking her in, but they said that when she was hungery enough she would cave.
It was the longest month of my life!
Anyway the next 6 months were all about getting her to eat and drink more than an ounce at a time since her belly had shrunk so bad. She was taking her bottle every 2 hours around the clock and still nursing for comfort.
We decided to try the cry it out method and cut the night feedings. We ended up going to the hospital since she hyperventilated so badly---for almost 4 hours.
The doctors there scolded me and said that the cry it out method is not for every child and definitly not for her. We were to try and calm her down as quickly as possible to and try to avoid letting her get so worked up.
I felt like the worst mother in the world!
Then Ethan was born.
He has no problem crying it out...he will cry for up to 10 mins and then zonk right out, however....he wakes Kaitlyn when he cries and she is worried for him and starts to cry and then we have to calm her down so she doesn't hyperventilate and her crying only works Ethan up more and then I end up shoving a boob at each of them to get them to calm down and get back to sleep.
They both are extremely light sleepers and will wake if you creak a floorboard in the hall as you walk past thier room. We run the furnace fan to create white noise to cope with that.
Now another this is that both Dave and I are night owls and I for one have always been a very light sleeper. I remember as a kid waking up throughout the night...my poor parents...wait, now I am going through it. Hmmm!
So anyway.....what we do now is rush in to see whomever wakes up first and get them back to sleep before they wake up the other and get the cycle going.
They do not need to be nursed but just comforted for a few minutes and they are alright and go back to sleep...usually. Sometimes they want to nurse and other times they are just wide awake.
Thing is they wake every few hours so Ethan sleeps with Dave and I. This way I can just roll over and get him back to sleep and only have to get up a few times with Kaitlyn.
I want them to sleep through the night so bad. I am sick of not sleeping and getting up every time I feel I just was getting to my deep sleep.
Maybe the fact that they are only 12 months apart plays into this a little, maybe I am just crazy!
They are awesome kids during the day, happy and good natured, unless they are sick. Then they are clingy!!
So please, I want to know....if any of you have any advice, I really want to know what works for you!
Anything, really I am all ears!
Now I am going to totally change the subject. We did some major decluttering this weekend.
I think the cabin fever thing was what got it moving. Being cooped up in the house day in and day out made me want change. So I decided it was time to rearange. We started with one shelf.
Nice and clean, hmmmm, maybe it should go, we could move things around and it would look cleaner.
- Ahhhhh, thats better! Now we can reorganize and clean up.
- I will do the reveal later, gotta get stuff all moved around, I feel good! Lighter!